Regrets and Not Regreting

I SUPPOSE there's a time in every one's life when they have a regret. They wish they had or hadn't of done something or such.

I'm don't consider myself a person to be above or beyond asking someone what they think I should do in a certain situation if I know they've been there, done that! I've gotten some good advice that I chose to follow, or if I don't care for the advice I just don't use it, but glad I DID GET the advice!

When you get advice from someone it's up to you to decide if you use it or not.
If it's good or bad. If you blame someone outside that realm then, you're just not thinking for yourself, and regardless if the person is right or wrong, it's up to YOU to decide which witch is which!

I did something for someone once, well, not just one person it was for a massive amount of people. I learned a valuable lesson from them, and from the people who it surrounded. It's sad really, because I feel that by my helping this person it's put the person in possible danger. I fear what I see now, and I feel I created it. It was a good intention that went wrong by horribly wrong people.

There were promises by that person the person was overjoyed that I'd brought to light what was really going on. Nobody had forgotten as this person once thought. I changed that. I gave this person hope to a new future as this person took the ball and ran with it. Now making marks all over with popularity, but on the downside, this popularity which is viewed as "fun" to that person and the followers of that person is looking horribly as if I would go as far to say, the person would have been better off had I never offered my assistance. I just didn't know this would take such a turn for the worse of their health.

If someone gives you advice, and you don't like it, then DON'T use it. Chalk it up to "OK, yeah whatever." All in all, as I said I wish I had of let sleeping dogs lay. Now what I see, is a frail, sickly, by far too thin person being fed crap, literally crap. Not being taken care of, nor taking care of themselves, all for the sake of having a touch of fame.

I can say, I'm glad I never wanted to be part of the fame, and asked as such and it was not given, and I value that. At the same time, the things that were said to me were of thanks, and much gratitude! I heard words "this time I'm not going to waste it, I'm going to do this, get that, make it work." and now this person looks like death warmed over. I'm not badgering at this person, it's not my life. I truly believed I was saving the life. But what I inadvertently did was alter the whole life of this person and put this person in harms way.

Now this person is nothing more than a walking skeleton of a human, who is in dyer need of medical attention but would never see it as such. The people who surround this person, well, some of them are good, but distance will be there because they cannot face the truth. The pitiful truth.

So the next time, you go out of your way to help someone, think to yourself, will they use what you've given them to help or use it to FURTHER hinder their life. Think about it good and hard, because there is a time for each of us to leave the planet and become part of it.
We die.
I feel now, from what I have seen and witnessed, this person dying a slow death, while others rave of what a great persona is put out there. They don't see through the glass, they see through a smog filled glass room. If they saw the truth, they would choose to ignore it and and they will be sad when it comes to an end. Because THEIR existence will have come to an end.

Myself, I'm done with giving advice to anyone I don't truly have a bond with. My fear is of misuse, or the fact it will get thrown back at me "but you said...." Well, advice is just that, ADVICE, it's not telling someone TO DO something, but if you're a grown person with decisions to make, and you believe someone made you think or do something differently, then there is seriously something wrong with your way of thinking.

On a much smaller scale, what could very easily turn into this bigger scale, sadly enough, I was asked how someone could do something and not have their hard work stolen. So I did the work of fixing things so that couldn't happen. I gave specific instructions DO NOT CHANGE THE SETTINGS, and it went ignored, and the settings were changed, and I had to go back and change all of it and delete it all as I learned, they all lie, they all lie then blame the helper, and they ALL blame you for everything THEY DID going wrong.

Well, if you need someone to do your thinking for you, then you should NOT be walking the streets, and you certainly should not be making life altering decisions for anyone else. Especially if the person has psychological problems. (As a lot of actors, actresses, musician's, writers "ok, I didn't exclude myself" do, they live in another world apart from those who stay focused and don't need help from another)

Sometimes, even listening to the same thing, OVER AND OVER AND OVER, there will come a point when you just need to say, "Look, love it or leave it, just don't bring it back to me."

I've learned in life, that you are your own best friend, you are your own worst enemy, so don't blame anyone who you sought any advice or help from, it's a regret you just have to deal with and live with, and sometimes you cannot even trust yourself with yourself if you have to be inside your own mind and make decisions. That's a reality, check it yourself!

Anyone who thinks they should seek council, should understand, they are not there to think for you, or to make decisions for you, they are only there to help you with tools of the mind to help you through a crisis of getting things off your chest. If you seek council, and all they do is make you think you are right and everyone else is wrong, and everyone else misunderstands you, then you need to find other council.

All I have to say to end this is, HEY YOU, STAY OFF OF MY CLOUD!